Friday, April 24, 2015
Monday, February 2, 2015
Stacey Dash Believes Rape Victims Are Bad Girls Who Like To Be Naughty
And the award for the dumbest comment of the month goes to….Stacey Dash! The actress recently reminded us of just how Clueless she truly is.
During an interview with FOX News’ Outnumbered, Dash shared her thoughts on rape victims. When asked about Dartmouth College’s decision to band hard alchohol on campus, Stacey suggested college women who are raped are “bad girls.”
Dash started by saying “good” female college students avoid frat parties. As for the bad girls….
The other bad girls–bad women–are the ones who like to be naughty, might go out and play and get hurt and then, you know…But the other thing about this is that it then blames the alcohol instead of the person who over-drinks. So it’s like, the same thing with guns. Guns don’t kill people; people kill people. Alcohol doesn’t get you drunk; you get yourself drunk.
To add more salt to the wound, Dash also had to be corrected multiple times for calling the victims girls instead of women.
Deep deep deep sigh. As a woman, I cannot comprehend how Stacey could insult and belittle another woman like that. Really? Rape is a very serious matter. I’m patiently waiting for someone to check Ms. Dash. Lawd. Here’s the link of her commentary.
How do you guys feel? Is Stacey wrong? Do you agree?
Sunday, February 1, 2015
“Let’s Just Be Friends” – Can You Be Buddies With an Ex?
I must admit, I don’t have too many exes, if any, that I actively “hate.” While there are some that I don’t give a second thought to, there are none that I sit up at night wishing death upon either. Most of my breakups have been “civil fall-outs” rather than these dramatic, hate-filled blow-ups that leave me wondering where I could hide a body. Sometimes things just don’t work out – and there’s nothing wrong with that. We can even be friends.
But as I type that, I wonder how many of my exes am I really friends with? I mean like REALLY friends. I don’t call any of them up on the phone. I don’t hang out with any exes. I’m not going to watch the Super Bowl at an exes house this weekend with my now husband. So am I truly friends with my exes – or just “friendly?”
Now granted, a lot of time has passed from my last breakup to when I connected with the man who would eventually become my husband, so being cool with an ex, even if only on social media, wasn’t a hard thing to do. If I have moved on to love someone else, clearly there is no reason to harbor any ill will towards anyone in my past, no matter how the relationship ended. But what if you’re newly broken up? Can you be friends right AFTER a breakup? For some it may be easy…but it can definitely be complicated as well.
Now if the relationship ended badly, I don’t see why anyone would want to be friends with the ex anyway. I have a friend who recently broke up with her ex because she found out he was cheating on her. However, she said to me that she has no problem being friends with him – she just doesn’t want him back. I may have to call bull-ish on that, because who wants to be friends with a liar and a cheater? Honesty and loyalty are the foundation of most friendships as well, not just romantic relationships – so that makes no sense to me.
But even if you can move past a bad breakup, being friends with an ex right away may delay, or hinder, your healing process. I’ve always been of the belief that you have to distance yourself from an ex after a split in order to give yourself time to reflect, heal and renew your spirit…even if the breakup was an amicable one. Trying to be friends too soon might bring about some warm and fuzzy feelings between you two and you’ll forget why you broke up in the first place. Next thing you know you’re “friends with benefits” in a weird space wondering what you’re doing. It can be confusing – especially if only one of you wants that old thing back while the other wants to remain broken up. It’s best to give yourself time to sort through your feelings and eventually get over your ex before you can attempt to be friends again. And that’s if the ex even wants to be friends again.
If you’re newly single and considering being friends with an ex, my advice would be not to force it. There is no rule that says you have to be friends with your ex to show how progressive and mature you are. You can be cordial when you bump into each other in mutual familiar places. You can “friend” him on Facebook or “follow” him on Instagram – without stalking him of course. And you can even hang out from time to time if you’re both up to it. I’ve dated men who were my friends first – immediately – who just never gave me butterflies when we tried to take it a step further. Sometimes couples realize they’re better suited as friends, so an immediate friendship can continue post-break up. Some may even become BETTER friends afterwards. However, for a lot of folks, those types of friendships are few and far between.
If you were head over heels in love and now you’re no longer together, or there was some sort of abuse (physical, emotional, mental) that has caused a traumatic split, you may want to re-think the whole “let’s be friends” thing once you decide to end the relationship. Sometimes, it’s best just to leave the past well alone and move forward. Forgiveness and healing doesn’t require a friendship, or even the guise of one. It simply requires that you learn the lessons from the relationship, transition into singlehood with dignity…and wish them well from afar.
- See more at: http://madamenoire.com/507903/lets-just-friends-can-buddies-ex/#sthash.ps1g0BaQ.dpuf
Saturday, January 31, 2015
Decoding Your Downstairs: 8 Things Women Need To Know About Their Va Jay Jay
The first thing you should really know about the vagina is that you should get yourself a group of girlfriends with whom your comfortable enough comparing notes and experiences! But, if you don’t have that group yet or the below issues just haven’t come up, then read on
You can still contract an STD even if you use a condom
It’s a huge let down but, it’s the reason why sleeping with completely random men may not be the best
idea. At least if you run in the same circles, you may have gotten word if the guy had something! If the skin of the vulva comes into contact with affected skin on the scrotum, you can still catch an STD.
- See more at: http://madamenoire.com/178678/decoding-your-downstairs-8-things-women-need-to-know-about-their-va-jay-jay/#sthash.6nlb7xaj.dpuf
Friday, January 30, 2015
Bandeaux and Boyshort with Removable Suspenders
This style includes a micro bandeaux top and strappy boy short featuring functional buttons and adjustable and removable suspenders. Ultra soft playful black spandex decorated with shiny silver sequins.
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